We, Ours, I and Mine As Related To Marriage

We, Ours, I and Mine As Related To Marriage.

(based on 30+ years of life’s education, probably learned the hard way)

Recently a friend of mine posted on facebook …. “I finally bit the bullet and bought a house.” A few of his friends were quick to congratulate him on facebook. I was glad for him and sent him a note in private. “on your post about buying the house... you used the word 'I'... shouldn't it have been 'we'??? His response, “lol, yes, my wife just scolded me for that!!!”

We
A great word to use. It is always good to use when referring to the two of you on most things. Examples such as we are going on a trip, we just bought a house, and we are going to her parent’s house. It is better to include her whenever possible. One quick exception is when you do something stupid. Try to use the ‘we’ word then and this will be quickly corrected to ‘You’.

Our
Another great word to use. As in our house, our money, and other thing you do or have whether you think them important or not.

I
A word that has to be used with great care. Incorrect use of ‘I’ can be met with quick and sometimes painful consequences. It may be OK to say I just got new golf clubs, however if you spouse places equal value on golf clubs then she should get a pair also and then it would become ‘we’.

Mine
Not much use for this word, unless you’re talking about your underwear… otherwise most things can become ours.

Money
This breaks most rules. If you said that I just got paid, it quickly becomes ours. If she gets paid, then it is hers. Translated she would say that what is mine is ours and what is hers is hers.

Moral Of Above
Be careful with the words that you use for even if you use the words correctly you can be corrected.

As for me, I am sure that my education will continue.

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Fifty Five

The Twenty ninth of October, I will turn 55. Most of these years, I don't even remember or think about the number. Sometimes I have had to think how old I was, one time even making myself older. I know that I do not feel that old. Two people might have a different view of that, though. Seth would say that for years, I act like an old man and Arlene would tell me to stop acting like a kid.

There were always the numbers that most associate with aging, 20,21,30,40,50, and so on. So why the focus on it this year.

I do not know why. It could be that this year is the first since the passing of my father this past May. It could be that Seth moved to Ohio in August. It could be that this year, a larger number of friends and family have had some of life's challenges. Or it could be what usually affects me at this time of the year, the Yahrzeit of my brother Harry, this year, November 1st.

So whatever the reason, I just hope that this coming year will bring joy to my friends and family and that we learn and grow from the challenges of our lives.

Isadore-Ize-Izzy-Sunny-Binder‏

On April 22nd, we took my father into the hospital for ear and

chest pain.In the course of diagnosing him they found cancer

of the pancreas metastasized to the liver. This was not related

to the ear pain. After less than a month,he passed this morning,

Sunday May 17th at 2:30 a.m. On Saturday, the whole family was

together,with most of the grandchildren. Though he was not eating

on Saturday, he did open his eyes occasionally, held my hand,

squeezed my hand and even waved goodbye when someone left the room.

My sister in law Sheryl Binder wrote the following:

Isadore "Sunny" Binder: January 17, 1925 - May 17, 2009

father-in-law, father, grandfather, husband of my mother-in-law

Helen Binder, metallurgist, veteran, golfer, email extraordinaire

and raspberry lover. You will be missed.

Things Could Be Worse

For years, I have had a saying.... "Things could be worse,
you could be in bed sleeping". I first remember saying this
when I was in Podiatry school and everyone was waiting to
take a test. At that time it had little or no meaning. Most
classmates probably would have opted for the in bed sleeping.
As the years went by and I have gotten older, it has taken
on more meaning.

This afternoon as I sat in Northridge Hospital with my father
who was recently diagnosed with end stage pancreatic and
liver cancer, he asked me how my mother was doing? I told
him fine, O.K.. Then he asked me how I was doing? I answered
"depends on which time of day you ask me".

His answer to me, was "Things Could Be Worse". So what I
had thought was something I made up years ago may be
something I heard years ago in one form or another.

I did not answer back. I just sat back and thought about it.

Passover 2009

Our Happy Passover wishes to all.....

The meal and company were great.

Others joined us for dessert and Seth's
24th birthday celebration.

First Snow Day

Dedicated to the young actors who involuntarily donated their
services to my first film.

Staring Matthew, Seth, Uncle Hirsch, David, and Robert sort of...

This is my first attempt at converting my videos from VCR tape to
DVD